BOYS DON'T CRY!!

Have you all ever given a thought to how some young boys change into demons becoming rapists, murderers, drug addicts, do human trafficing and domestic violence, etc before putting all your energy in blaming and cursing them and writing long hate paragraphs about them? And then before writing 'every boy is the same' and 'boys can't be feminists'?

​From the moment we are born, we are socialized according to our assumed gender. BOYS DON'T CRY- Indian parents' all time favorite line. Even if you are hurt be it physically or mentally you are not allowed to cry because you are a 'boy', you are born to become the family's bread maker, leaders don't cry is what taught to us.

And what happens if you cry? Well that's just another part of story, if you cry 'you are weak, your are not a real man, a black spot to masculinity.'

Many reports prove that the cases of sexual assaults filled by men are mostly detained in India only because of lack of support and that our society has a common view that it's always the men who are wrong.

In a recent study, according to White Ribbon, University of California found half of boys said they’d heard men in their family make sexual jokes or comments about women, those boys were more likely to feel pressure to be tough and play along with sexism. An even bigger share, 82 per cent, said they had heard someone criticize a boy for “acting like a girl.”

This is just nothing, I would like to share something more, something more personal, at my old school boys and even girls used to criticize boys who were feminine in nature by calling them 'chakka', a slang word made by Indians for transgenders. Some of them might even be reading this right now.

To those little nutheads I would like to say something, you won't ever be able to realize the type of pain and mental pressure they went through at the time when you were busy laughing on them and doing a show off of your fake masculinity. Literally saying I really (from the bottom of my heart) feel pity for you all that you all are so insecure of your masculinity and feminity. They stand nowhere expect for making you regret later.

It's not just the people who critize but also the people who see them being criticized and don't do anything fall in the list of culprits.

And didn't you all still got to know what makes these young boys turn into demons? It's you.

-- We need to challenge harmful behaviours among boys and young men in order to promote healthier masculinities. Rather than policing boys to become "real men" — being tough, winning at all costs, never backing down, always in control, unemotional, we need to teach boys and young men to be respectful, kind, consensual, inclusive and equitable, and reward them when they adopt these behaviours.

We need to explain them that it's okay to cry, it's a human thing and not a gender thing.

This helps promote safety and well-being in relationships, and gives men and boys the opportunity to live fulfilling lives outside the constraints of unhealthy, restricting, toxic stereotypes.

Your small help can always bring a big change in this man-dominated society. Just a small friendly and encouraging hand can save a life. And that's when we all will understand the real meaning of 'feminism' and will proudly be able to say 'BOYS AND GIRLS ARE EQUAL'.